If you have been through the pains of your spouse/partner cheating on you, you will agree it can be one of the most painful experiences to go through. You get overwhelmed emotionally and go through different phases of emotions, from pains to anger at then betrayal.
Your first reaction is usually to lash out and cause him as much pain as he caused you.
A lot of marriages get hit by this monster at one time or the other, but if you still love your spouse (even though you may not feel it at that exact moment) and would like to still salvage your marriage, then here are 6 proven ways to get through this painful phase and get your marriage on the road to being healed.
1. Take Out Time to Grieve and Work on Your Emotions
Cry the pain out if you must. You have just been wounded emotionally and keeping the pains bottled inside will do you more harm than good.
However, give yourself a time-frame for your grieving and after this, reign-in on your emotions. You need to come to terms with what has happened and get your emotions settled.
2. Get Your Facts/ Proof
Once your emotions are in place, you should proceed to get real, hard proof of your husband’s cheating. As women, we are blessed with good intuition. Do not lash at your husband based on mere suspicions but go all-out and get facts of his cheating.
3. Confront Him
With the proof in hand, confront him and tell him you know of his cheating. Give him a chance to explain his part to you (as hard as this may be).
4. Make Him End the Affair
Get him to end his affair and follow-up to be sure he does. Give him an ultimatum and follow-through if he fails to end it. If it means leaving for a while do so and leave with your kids. Do not condone his cheating.
5. Make Him Earn Your Forgiveness
Even after your husband has ended his affair, things will not immediately go back to the way they were. He has broken your trust and hurt you and has to work at earning your trust and forgiveness again.
Make him understand that getting the marriage back on track will be his sole duty.
6. Go For Counseling
If you both are finding it hard to make the marriage work, even after your husband has tried to right things, then you might consider marriage counseling to work out these issues.
There are several good marriage counselors whose services you can consult in this regard.
Healing should be taken one step at a time and with continuous efforts, your marriage is sure to get right back on track.